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Don’t cry, it was only a joke.

“Don’t cry,  it was only a joke.” Words spoken by a just-joshin’ bloke. “We’re just havin’ a laugh”…at your expense Say those who can’t see hurt in ‘nonsense’. Joking like this creates emotional distance As the Joker displays empathic resistance.   A cheap shot, perhaps, unclever and crass, Accusing the target of being like glass …

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Before you give birth you need to know this

LEAVE THE UMBILICAL CORD UNCLAMPED! and by that I mean Don’t Cut the Cord! It does not need to be tied off – with a clamp, shoelace, floss or crochet tie. I am deeply concerned that it is still widely promoted by medically trained people that this is necessary.  IT IS NOT. This news article …

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How I turned the Beast of Fear into a friend for life

The Journey began as I toddled around the yard The Great Beast lumbered toward me. Black. Huge. Unpredictable. Dangerous. Then it was gone. Just like that. What remained, the Memory, grew. And soon became a Fear. A Fear of Dogs. All. Dogs. The thing about a fear is, it is not rational. Whilst it may …

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The voluntary human extinction movement

A poem of vehmnent bemusement inspired by this article   “Stop having kids” say VHEMT, With obvious narcissistic intent, “Enjoy your long life full of pleasures Using up all Earth’s natural treasures, No need to change your unethical ways Or your environmentally destructive sways Live big, free of burden and responsibility Who cares about generational …

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From Belief and Fear to Informed and Confident

Belief and fear often go together.   Often long held, and unquestioned, our beliefs and fears can lead us to ‘solutions’ that may not actually be helpful. How do our beliefs and fear impact our approach to childbirth?   ​Many an anxious husband insists on all the bells and whistles, all the pings, mistakenly (and arrogantly) believing that …

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