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Before you give birth you need to know this

LEAVE THE UMBILICAL CORD UNCLAMPED! and by that I mean Don’t Cut the Cord! It does not need to be tied off – with a clamp, shoelace, floss or crochet tie. I am deeply concerned that it is still widely promoted by medically trained people that this is necessary.  IT IS NOT. This news article …

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How I turned the Beast of Fear into a friend for life

The Journey began as I toddled around the yard The Great Beast lumbered toward me. Black. Huge. Unpredictable. Dangerous. Then it was gone. Just like that. What remained, the Memory, grew. And soon became a Fear. A Fear of Dogs. All. Dogs. The thing about a fear is, it is not rational. Whilst it may …

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The voluntary human extinction movement

A poem of vehmnent bemusement inspired by this article   “Stop having kids” say VHEMT, With obvious narcissistic intent, “Enjoy your long life full of pleasures Using up all Earth’s natural treasures, No need to change your unethical ways Or your environmentally destructive sways Live big, free of burden and responsibility Who cares about generational …

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From Belief and Fear to Informed and Confident

Belief and fear often go together.   Often long held, and unquestioned, our beliefs and fears can lead us to ‘solutions’ that may not actually be helpful. How do our beliefs and fear impact our approach to childbirth?   ​Many an anxious husband insists on all the bells and whistles, all the pings, mistakenly (and arrogantly) believing that …

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Protector, saviour or unconscious abuser?

What follows has grown from a dream, or a short visual sequence as I awoke, that stuck with me. The vision:  a woman swims in a luxury, private pool.  She dives deep, enjoying the silence and time with her thoughts, the weightlessness,  the agility.   A man thinks she is drowning, he jumps in, tries to …

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When death is not an option

(Inspired by this article) The parallels between birthing and dying I have long fascinated me.  My Birth Map is to birth, as an Advanced Care Directive is to death. The thought that death must be avoided,  is a last resort,  is always a tragedy,  and anything natural is stupid or insane, disturbs me.  We do …

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Is menstrual blood dangerous?

The syncronising uteri of dedicated birth supporter and the birthing woman…. Is it possible? There are anecdotal reports that co-habiting women syncronise their menstrual cycles.  Are there dominant uteri?   Do some women, such as birthing women, have this effect? Does it only affect women not on hormonal birth control? In high school, our choir mistress …

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The Survivor, The Warrior and The Goddess

Birthing is not innate, Not in this Modern World Our instincts may be masked and crushed We may find ourselves being processed Our questions being hushed.   For many women birth is something they Survive A life event without honour or joy It is enough to just get through with a healthy girl or boy. …

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