Most people hear birth plan and think of something set in stone, something that has to be followed to the letter and has no room for error. Something that is inflexible, rigid and ultimately impossible to achieve. Birth is unpredictable, so surely it is pointless to plan.
This leaves you with two options:
- ‘Going with the flow’.
OR - Create a Birth MAP.
A Birth Map helps you to understand the possible pathways, how they connect, and the circumstances that might require them. This way, as birth unfolds, we can make the best decision possible based on those circumstances.
Discussing these possibilities with your care providers and support team means you can make realistic preparations for various circumstances, and the documented map gives an ‘if this-then that’ framework.
- This means you do not need to be disturbed with trivial matters.
- This avoids stressful on-the-spot decisions, where limited time and information mean we can not make confident decisions.
- Your Birth Partner will be more engaged and able to support you.
- You can be sure you have chosen the right care provider for you.
If you imagine the birthing woman as the driver, the road trip rules apply:
In many cases, the driver has familiarised themselves with the route and requires minimal assistance from the co-pilot. The occasional ‘left at the next intersection’ or redirection in the event of roadblocks, whilst offering the driver a drink periodically and changing the music if directed by the driver. Sometimes, the driver may seek assistance through a difficult section, with the co-pilot reading the map directions. Just as the pre-programmed GPS will “recalculate” the route if you stray from the main route, giving the next best option when the main route is no longer possible, the birth map allows for these pre-determined alternatives. Unlike a GPS, however, your co-pilot is a very human supporter who knows you and your map.
The Birth Pathways are no great mystery. The options available can be investigated and understood. When determining who will accompany you on your journey, you must first understand your preferred pathway. The people who accompany you must be prepared to follow your lead. To support your journey. Your chosen care provider should be experienced and familiar with your chosen pathway.
It is Your Birth – Your Way, even if you must detour.
Learn how to navigate the maternity system
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